“You are in need…
In need of an attitude
adjustment,
A
mental shift,
Perhaps,
a renewing of the mind…”
He said.
He said,
I had to let go,
I had to reframe and
reform how I viewed things,
To break away from my
so called “realities”
And create new possibilities.
An attitude adjustment
is what he called it.
He said I was in
need,
As if I could
magically erase all I thought to be true,
All that encapsulated
MY mind,
MY thoughts,
MY feelings,
As if I could forget
the past,
The lessons I learnt,
The scars I still saw
marred all over my being…
Fixed by an attitude
adjustment,
He said.
“An attitude
adjustment,
A mental shift,
Perhaps, a renewing
of the mind…”
He said.
XOXO
Chido Dziva Chikwari
Have you ever had to listen to advice you really didn’t want
to hear although you knew it was true? Have you ever heard words so honest and
straight to the point that it becomes a little difficult to swallow? And
although you’d like it to be so wrong you can’t find the words to contend with
it, to adequately justify your actions or to stop the conversation mid air?
I recently had an encounter like that and the post tells the
story. The moral of it all lies with how difficult it is to accept where your
mistakes and your faults lie especially when they are sooo deeply rooted within
how you have allowed/made yourself to believe things are. It really isn’t easy and I’ve come to realise
that an attitude adjustment is something easier said than done. The things we
come to accept as truth are engraved and formed through many experiences over
time and letting go of those things there and then kinda tears you apart because
it challenges years of building blocks in creating your truth.
So what do you do?
Post my experience I have decided to take a few steps in
dealing with this ‘new truth’.
·
Step 1 - Analyse the advice. Play it over and
over in my mind until I accept it to be true and not a mere attack on me.
·
Step 2 – Retrace. I have now begun a process of
retracing where I could have gotten things wrong and hopefully through that I’ll
start having light bulb moments that will help me remodel my age old beliefs.
·
Step 3 – Automatic attitude adjustment. (If my
steps work)
It isn’t easy but I have feeling it makes all the
difference.
Like I said earlier the truth is sometimes hard to take and
oftentimes shooting the messenger is a much easier take, however, a lesson I
also learnt from this is the value of a friend/brother/sister who tells you
like it is. It can’t be easy on the other end being downright honest and today
I accept that the hard truth actually comes from a place of love. Make it a
point to cherish those that tell you like it is…they are often a rare find J
Shout out to the “HE” that told me I needed an attitude adjustment, my
mom, my little sister and 90% of my friends for always telling me like it is.
The hard truth!
