What makes YOU different?

So the question I found myself asking in the middle of the night (and it kept me awake for quite sometime) was, "What makes you different?".

And like most questions I ask myself I had no clue how to answer it. I figure there is the obvious stuff like how I look on the outside but image if our souls were striped naked and there among many others you had to pick out yours... What is it inside you that makes your heart beat faster, that stirs up your inner most being and kindles the flames of passion??... what are your hearts unique and specific desires?

I'm not talking about material things now, I'm talking about the things that matter... the things that stand when all else is taken away... the things that make you YOU! 

I believe that it is in those things that you find what truly makes you different. And I think only in seeking those things out and pursuing them will you find purpose, true happiness and your destiny....

Start searching for YOU. I am.

XOXO
Chido Dziva Chikwari

P.S. Acts 17:28 - For in him we live, and move, and have our being....

Forgiven but not Forgotten

Just because I have forgiven you it doesn't mean that you didn't do anything wrong to me..it doesn't mean that I have to like you but that I no longer hold you accountable for the dead. It means I've stopped being angry at you, i'm no longer the victim and I can trust people again. 

Forgive and Forget is a christian cliche and it's absolute rubbish...we choose not to linger on the thoughts, we choose not to live in the past, we choose not to dwell on the negatives of our past.

-Tom Rawls on Anger & Forgiveness

I really identified with this sermon mainly because I have been hurt and wronged by someone I trusted and loved deeply. And for a long period afterwards I was angry and resentful... I asked myself repeatedly where I went wrong and had countless interventions with God asking him WHY. I spent time thinking of

 ways to get back at that person and envisioned the day they would come back to me to apologize and tell me how much they messed up but the truth of the matter is I held onto all that bitterness right up until the point I finally decided to forgive and release that person.

The point where I let it all go and stopped expecting anything from them is the point where everything changed. It obviously took a really long time and the process wasn't a smooth one but the truth is I will never forget what did happen and I can never be chitty chatty, happy buddy with them BUT now I have peace in my heart. There came a time where I actually found myself being happy for that person and actually being able to move on my life. I 

realize that he (yes its a he) wasn't part of Gods plan for my life and although it took ages for me to see it (and maybe this is me trying to console myself) he wasn't that great a guy anyway. Some would say there are bigger fish in the sea...its true ;)

I cant say i'm completely healed from that ordeal but I believe i'm going strong in the process...I wont cry myself to sleep anymore and I don't exactly trust everyone that comes my way but i'm opening myself up to stuff more and more each day.  That was a learning experience and I learn more and more from it each day. I know I didn't go through all that for nothing and strongly believe that there is a greater glory! 

More to come!!

XOXO

Chido Dziva Chikwari

Judge a Book by its Cover!

I believe (and correct me if I am wrong)...

......the cover of a book is a pretty good judgement of the book

Why?

 

The TITLE of a book and the ABSTRACT at the back that tells you what the book is about is found on the cover... True??

If you like/don't like what you see or read on the outside which is basically the best effort of depicting whats on the inside what makes you think it will be any better/different on the inside?

And well if you are really adamant about judging the outside being 'wrong' or unfair then at least make an initial evaluation of the book by analyzing the cover.

Obviously this isn't just about books but it applies to just about everything in life. How something looks is essentially part of what it is. How I dress my hair divulges what I like. If my attire is constituted of prim and proper everything...i'm probably like that.

As with any other theory there are flaws, however, what I'm saying is if you wont judge a book by its cover, why not?

A cover can tell you a whole lot and if nothing else at least make a preliminary assessment of the book based on its cover.

 

XOXO

Chido Dziva Chikwari